Friday, September 23, 2016

New career

I just signed up for a postpartum doula course with Doula Training Canada!

Before I gave birth I was considering being a birth doula.  Well, at the moment, I don't have to constitution for it.  The intensity, the blood, the really odd not consistent hours, the blood.  Did I mention the possibility of blood?  I can talk about, and deal with my own.  I'm terrified for the day Bunny gets a gash.  But talk about or show me blood.  nerp.  So that was out.  Maybe one day I might feel passionate enough about it to try.  But I doubt it.
So with my own postpartum I found out there where women who helped families postpartum.  Educated them, helped with baby care, help with household care, helped with spouse and sibling integration, and 'mothered the mother' as they say. 

Doula Canada also has a birth educator course, and for months now I've been trying to decide what to do first.  I went with Postpartum Doula because.  I don't know.  I just did.  I want to do both, and I will. 

So, are you having a baby in 2017??  give me a ping!  I can help.  I'll need hours helping families.

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

no yelling - anticipation

A mixed bag so far.  Almost 3 weeks in.  Half yelling, half not.  And a whole week no yelling!  wot!?  Anger yes.  Rage whispering yes.  But no screaming. 

So I find myself being most angry when I haven't anticipated that he'll have a melt down. 
Or when I'm in pain.  I have absolutely no patience when I have a headache or joint pain or feel queasy.

I have a mild migraine right now, so I'll sign off.  I have more to talk about, but wanted to do a quick update.

Friday, September 2, 2016

and back to 0

No yelling update. Back to 0. Got through day one, but had (unrelated?) nightmares and woke up grumpy and had a hard, hard time. Janet Lansbury re-posted an article on her Facebook page about staying unruffled. Unruffled will be my new word. Water off a ducks back. Easier said than done. I'm also finding yelling isn't my only problem.  I guess anger is my problem.  I don't always yell, but sometime don't act very nicely. And that's why I;m doing this challenge.  To become more mindful. 

Thursday, September 1, 2016

Orange Rhino Challenge (ie. no yelling)

I've been finding myself yelling, shouting and sometimes even screaming at Bunny for no good reason at all (good reasons include: Safety, and, um, safety). 
I want to stop. 
I decided a week or so ago to try the Orange Rhino Challenge.  TORC was started by a mom, with no official background in child education or psychology.  She just knew she wanted, or needed, to stop yelling.
First I spent the time before Sept. 1 thinking about when I yelled, and why.  What are my triggers?  What makes me steamy?
For me it's not making messes, being loud or displaying emotion.  It's being defiant. 
"DUDE!  JUST DO WHAT I'M ASKING!" is the typical thing that comes out. 

So my end goal is 365 days not yelling.  That's really just a visual.  Something to track.  My real goal is to be conscious.  Conscious of my emotions and how I express them. 

When I yell, I go to day 0 again.

I'm still thinking about exactly what my barometer will be.  TOR (The Orange Rhino, she decided to stay anonymous) has a Yelling Meter and her own set of rules.  I'll need to figure out exactly what my rules are.

So far today has been good.  Came close a few times.  Somewhere between a 3 and 4.  I'm also in a good mood, so that helps.  Give me a few weeks when my cycle changes *ahem*.  My diet also effects how I feel.  Wheat makes me angry.  Too much sugar makes my joints hurt, and I feel grumpy.  I need to make sure I sleep.  I'm also tracking how often I do yoga.  Aiming for 28 days morning and night.

I'm going to try to set up a tracker here to keep accountable!