and I don't have anything to say.
lets ramble for 10 minutes and see what comes out.
I just heard back from an old friend (on FB, she lives far away, and I haven't seen her in person in at least 10 years) who is 'allowed her friends back' now that her and ex have separated. I started to cry in pitty for the man, and said out loud, "oh (soandso), you manipulative bastard". This is his second failed marriage. I don't want to blame it on him entirely, but there is a pattern emerging. I knew this guy at the end of our teens. looking back I can see the slight tendency for this kind of manipulation, but I don't think anyone would have thought he could be such an ass. I don't know the whole story, but I know some of the story from his first ex. He's the kind of person who sees abuse as physical, "so what is her problem? I don't beat her!?" kind of attitude.
I'm proud of this girl for getting out too. She hasn't had an easy go of it. I'm glad she's back in my (online) life